Sunday, February 14, 2010


So as many of you may remember my sister and I have had some issues lately. I wasn't exactly happy about the fact that she recently became pregnant under less then favorable conditions. We have, since then, primarily worked it out. We are talking again, even though it does stay slightly politer then usual. We have made dates to hang out, though for some reason or another it always seems to fall through. We haven't had the make up talk yet, but I feel pretty confidant we will. All in all the situation is resolving itself.

The problem I am having now is with her girlfriend. We all work together, my sister, her, and I. Things at work have become literally intolerable. For some reason her girlfriend has decided that she hates everyone we work with including me. We have had no explanation as to why that is and no efforts to fix the situation have even come close to working. I really don't know what to do at this point. She is just so increadably rude and mean to everyone at work. It is making being at work like torture. I have tried to talk to my sister to try and find out what is going on but she just says that she doesn't know. I haven't even tried talking to her myself because she looks like she could snap and go mental on anyone at any second. The only thing that I can fathom is that she is upset that bits of information have leaked through and eventually gotten to everyone else at work but that doesn't seem like enough of a reason to be this excessively mad.

I should mention at this point that my sisters girlfriend and I have been practically best friends for about 10 years, and that since she has been dating my sister that we have become more like family lately. The same goes for my work, we have all been there so long that we all think of each other as family. So if she had issues I would think that she would want to at least try to work things out at some point, but apparently not.

We are all kind of hoping that she quits at this point but that wont stop me from having to have her in my life even if it stops for the rest of the staff.

If anyone has any advice or perspective I would greatly appreciate it.


  1. I am going to go out on a limb and comment on this.

    You have some seriously wacky things going on in your life. I think that "drama" is a huge underestimation of what you are going through right now.

    Honestly, I think you need to distance yourself from this situation. Having these people in your life who are outputting all of this negative energy is not helping you or your stress level.

    You need normalcy, comfort, understanding, and support right now. Not people who are only interested in themselves and their own agendas.

    Spend as much time as possible with family who you know you can trust and who are interested in your well-being.

    Wish you were here in Pennsylvania, Sarah. I think you and I would be great friends.

  2. Thanks Melissa! I agree with you whole heartedly. I have so much stress of my own with buying a new house and ttc that I REALLY don't need anyone else's drama on top of that.

    I really wish that I had read your advice before I acted. I decided to send her a heartfelt note (sent via text message) saying that I valued our friendship and that I wish she would explain her behavior because I am hurting because of her actions. I said that since she is dating my sister that even if she has decided to end that friendship that we needed to find a way to be civil to each other. Unfortunatly she never responded to that text.

    So I guess she has clearly decided her path. Oh well, I am sad about this but I really have so much going on that I just have to let it go. I just have to concentrate on my DH etc.

    Thanks for saying that, I wish I lived in Pennsylvania too. I have been trying to get DH to move up north for years, lol.

    Melissa, I really wish you would start up your own blog I am always wondering what's up in your life too. You should think about it!

  3. I actually think about it alot, Sarah. Because I admire you so much for putting yourself out there. . . and you have helped me so much. I would love if I could help just one woman feel like she is not alone.

    Hugs from the frozen north!


  4. Well if you ever decide yo start your own blog I will definitely be your first follower. Keep me uppdated